Distractions

Hey guys! How are you doing. Hope you got in touch with someone after reading my previous blog and relived some old memories and created some new ones. Felt good right?. 

Sometimes I feel in times like these, the small burst of happiness are a must and they mean a lot!! 

These times have been difficult, and a lot has happened in the last year and a half which we may want to omit from our lives, right? But how do we do that? How do we come out of those situations? Sometimes the situations are so bad that we feel like we are going deeper into the issue rather than getting over it. We all have experienced that. I am sure. I have experienced that and gosh it is difficult! 

So, what do we do? I was going through a bad phase in life and most of my family and friends told me I needed a DISTRACTION. Wow! distraction to get my mind off the issue? Perfect!!

But, no one could tell me what that distraction could be. I mean, in my head I was like, wouldn’t I have already been distracted from the issue if I knew what distraction I needed? Sigh! But the family and friends genuinely mean to help, and they help you exactly on the spot where you need love. They bless your wound. They feel like assets and suddenly all your liabilities seem evaporating. 

So, now we start finding that distraction which we think will help and try our luck with things. But our mind; way too smart, gets us back to square one in no time! We feel our mind is against us and is always on the opposite side of the issue, making us go back to the same thing again. Curious thing our mind is! And finally when we decide to give up, it eventually gives us a direction – some call it luck or destiny; I would like to refer to it as mind games – obviously I do believe in destiny, but this one is a little different. 

So, I was also trying to find a lot of distractions and I failed miserably. I am a workaholic so tried immersing myself in work – worked 14 hours but that didn’t seem to help; moment work got over mind was back to the same thoughts. Kept trying until 1 day I got an e-mail to be a trainer to this new lot of people who we have hired across the country and I was like lets try this as well; what’s the downside right; I may suck at training nothing could be worse. So, I got approvals from my bosses and accepted to be the trainer (against the advice of my bosses as I was working 14 hours already and to devote a week to training was going to be crazy). But I was like ‘Challenge Accepted’ and I did it. 

Eventually I was told that I was supposed to take a week long training (on various topics) with another co-facilitator – someone who I had not met in my life and I was like how do I take sessions along with a person I have never spoken to in my life. But this person was totally like me. I needed the distraction and it was a perfect setting planned for me. We interacted and we hit it off well and, in my head, I was like we are going to kill this one. 

There we were ready to train these 28 brilliant minds who were stressed as hell how things would pan out and how much we would bore them with the constant blabbering on the topics. But that 1 week went by in a flash and it was amazing. It somewhere got the old me back – the one who used to enjoy, laugh, pull peoples leg, entertain people, be full of energy (even after sleeping for 4 hours) and it felt really good. 

This change made me realise that I still had that fun element in me, and 1 bad event could not just ruin everything up or couldn’t change what I am. It also made me realise that a complete stranger could become such an amazing buddy in a matter of a few days we spent over the phone, is just unbelievable. We were the perfect Tom and Jerry – me obviously being Jerry because I am the cute one! The non-sense we spoke; the crap we discussed – if someone would have heard us speak, they would consider us mental. No one believed us when we said that we knew each other for only a few days. So, this one is for my Tom without which I would still be stuck without my distraction. 

This journey also introduced me to 28 new amazing individuals - now we are eagerly waiting to meet once things settle down. I am just glad that these people were not bored to death by us and now we have a memory which will last a lifetime of these few days we spent together. 

This happened to me when I thought I had explored all options of distracting myself from the issue in hand. Call it luck or destiny, I got the opportunity with these amazing people. We need these things in life, and they do come along eventually. We just need to hang in there – just a matter of time. So, with that, go out there and find your distractions – go relive your days when you were 10 years younger and it will feel great trust me. Leaving you with this thought and obviously it’s not a goodbye from me today. Take care guys. And you never know, when these things or people who I am calling distraction today may become one of the important persons’ in my life. I think we will just have to wait, watch and go with the flow! 

Cheers,

Azim.